Tagged with death


We never intended to have another cat. When we moved to California, my wonderful, compassionate, lovable Katchoo died. Sassy remained, and, over time, became a loving, huggable kitty too. But Sassy did not like other cats. We had a kitten, Giles, for four short months (he died of FIP). Sassy had hated Katchoo, and she … Continue reading

On Crying

Many people on the Inter-tubes have been remembering where they were on September 11, 2001. Max and I had just moved into our first new house, in New Hampshire. I was on my way to work, listening to the news on the radio when the second plane hit. I got to work, checked my mail, … Continue reading

The Month of May

It starts before May 1st. The marketing targeted to that second Sunday in May. Mother’s Day. “15% off gifts for Mom!” “Get Mom what she really wants!” Even my iPhone alerted me, “Start a game with Mom!” Et tu, Words with Friends? You know what I bet my mom really wants? To meet her granddaughter. … Continue reading

Two Years Ago

Two years ago, I got a call before 8 o’clock in the morning. Two years and just a few days ago, my mom was still alive. Last year, I went to the cemetery and talked to my mom. Then, I went shoe shopping. That night, some friends took me out and I got more smashed … Continue reading

Life Update

(originally published on LiveJournal) Now, the yeah-that’s-great-but-I’d-rather-have-my-mom-back part: My sister and I were the beneficiaries on my mom’s checking and savings accounts. My father is OK with this. He insists he has enough to live on. I may call my uncle (his accountant) and make sure, but still… Anyway, we got our checks. I’m just … Continue reading


(originally posted on LiveJournal) My friend Jamie introduced me to Infinite Joy, a revue of songs by William Finn (Falsettos, among others). I’ve been in a showtunes mood the last few days. I started today with The Mystery of Edwin Drood. Due to the vagaries of iTunes, it was followed by “Anytime”, from Infinite Joy … Continue reading

Mom’s Death, Part Five

(originally posted on LiveJournal) The Thursday that my mom died, I called a friend of mine from high school. Only one person reading this knows her, but still, I’m going to call her Sabrina, just in case. Sabrina has two kids, and her daughter had her 6th birthday on the Saturday after Mom died. The last … Continue reading

Mom’s Death, Part Four

(I originally posted this on LiveJournal. I’m editing it because I don’t want to share everything with the world.) I last saw my mom on the Sunday before Memorial Day. She was incredibly upset. She brought over a trunk full of stuff, some of which we kept, some of which is in our garage awaiting … Continue reading

Mom’s Death, Part Three

(I originally posted this on LiveJournal. Unless you’re me, there is no part three. I’m editing the series because I don’t want to share everything with the world.) For a long time, I’ve been thinking of journaling about my relationship with my mother. The problem is, it’s really hard to do so without writing about … Continue reading