Tagged with money

The Right Reason to Adopt?

I read the comments on blog posts. I shouldn’t, but I do. I read the following comment on a blog about the ethics of adoption fundraising: From my perspective, if the cost of domestic, international, or embryo adoption is too expensive for a family the obvious choice would be foster adoption. Maybe I’m just being … Continue reading

Adopt from Foster Care – It’s Free

Every time someone asks about the cost of private domestic or international adoption, every time someone posts a fundraiser or asks for tips on raising or saving money, there are at least two people who chime in with variations on this theme: Adopt from foster care – it’s free! Sometimes, the comments are cheery: We … Continue reading

Fees in Robyn’s Adoption Land

As I’ve discussed previously, adoption is expensive. It shouldn’t be. In Robyn’s Adoption Land, adoption costs what it costs, no more and no less. What does that mean, precisely? Fees are set based on the costs of actual services. Fees are not charged based on the race or gender of the child. All adoption agencies … Continue reading

The Cost of Cassie’s Adoption

I just took the Adoptive Families magazine Cost & Timing of Adoption Survey. I already had all of our expenses in a spreadsheet, sorted by year, for our taxes. I just had to break them down into categories for the survey. I am sharing them here. Let me tell you why. I am not sharing … Continue reading

Birthmother Expenses In Robyn’s Adoption Land

If I were Queen of the United States, instead of just Queen of Robyn’s Adoption Land, everyone would have free health care. The minimum wage would rise with inflation. Food servers would have to be paid minimum wage, and tips wouldn’t count towards that. Schools would be better funded than prisons. Women would have the … Continue reading

Are Birthmother Expenses Necessary?

In my last post, I discussed how birthmother expenses work. Many people, sometimes adoptive parents, but also birth parents, adoptees, and others inside and outside of the adoption community, question whether birthmother expenses are necessary. Their argument goes like this: How would she be making ends meet if she wasn’t pregnant and placing? Lots of … Continue reading