November 8th

My mom still has a Facebook page. I’m not sure how to make it go away. I’d probably have to get my dad’s permission to do it, and I’m not sure I want to have to take that three-way phone call. (Remind me to tell you the story of his cable bill.) Anyway, the fact … Continue reading →

My Kids Have Two Moms

I don’t know what it is, but it seems like a lot of adoptive parents are currently whining about how it’s so unfair that people recognize birthmothers as mothers. They complain, “I’m the one who is there everyday. I’m the mom!” My kids have two moms. My kids have two dads. We know Cassie’s birthfather, but he’s recently … Continue reading →

The Way We Were

My mom died on May 21, 2009. My dad wanted me to sing at her funeral. My sister and I ended up cantoring the Mass, but I sang a solo during Communion. My mom was a huge Barbra Streisand fan, so I had to sing something of hers. I knew two songs – “Memory” and … Continue reading →

My Mother Is Still Dead

I hate May. April’s not that great either. My mom died five years ago, May 21, 2009. I have a post already drafted for that auspicious anniversary. But today is Mother’s Day, and most of the time, when it comes to Mother’s Day, all I can think of is, “My mother is still dead.” The … Continue reading →

On Crying

Many people on the Inter-tubes have been remembering where they were on September 11, 2001. Max and I had just moved into our first new house, in New Hampshire. I was on my way to work, listening to the news on the radio when the second plane hit. I got to work, checked my mail, … Continue reading →

The Month of May

It starts before May 1st. The marketing targeted to that second Sunday in May. Mother’s Day. “15% off gifts for Mom!” “Get Mom what she really wants!” Even my iPhone alerted me, “Start a game with Mom!” Et tu, Words with Friends? You know what I bet my mom really wants? To meet her granddaughter. … Continue reading →

Open Adoption Roundtable #38: What I Want to Say to You On Mother’s Day

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re now at Open Adoption Roundtable #38. Mother’s Day is coming soon in many countries, and the intersection of adoption and that holiday can stir up a lot … Continue reading →

Two Years Ago

Two years ago, I got a call before 8 o’clock in the morning. Two years and just a few days ago, my mom was still alive. Last year, I went to the cemetery and talked to my mom. Then, I went shoe shopping. That night, some friends took me out and I got more smashed … Continue reading →

Mother

I have a feeling this is going to be one of those posts that makes people angry with me. But, it’s been in my head for a long time. My mom passed away almost two years ago – May 21, 2009. She was 59. (Aside: Her mom died on May 28, 1980, when she was … Continue reading →

Merry Christmas Solider??

It’s a long story, but, after my Mom died, I began talking to and corresponding with her childhood best friend. I think I’ve really only talked to and written to Chris a handful of times. I’m a poor correspondent. Now that we’re having our house worked on, I’ve been going through all of the piles … Continue reading →