November 8th

My mom still has a Facebook page. I’m not sure how to make it go away. I’d probably have to get my dad’s permission to do it, and I’m not sure I want to have to take that three-way phone call. (Remind me to tell you the story of his cable bill.) Anyway, the fact … Continue reading

I Just Can’t Even: Mask Shaming Edition

I Just Can’t Even: Mask Shaming Edition

“I can’t imagine fearing for my children’s lives over something that is supposed to ‘protect them’” ~ One of my white Facebook friends For those who don’t want to read this whole rambling, the point is this: Masks should not be mandated. If you want to wear a mask, wear a mask. If you don’t … Continue reading

Blasts From the Past

Starting tomorrow, and continuing over the next year, I’m going to be republishing many of my blog posts from That site, while still active and operated by, purged a lot of their older content. I wrote for them from February 2009 to December 2010. I’m not saying these are great works or anything. … Continue reading

I Just Can’t Even: Black Lives Edition

I Just Can’t Even: Black Lives Edition

I haven’t been writing. That’s not entirely true. I have entire books written inside my head. I just can’t commit anything to the physically written word. The problem is, words don’t matter. I’ve written many words… You’ve Heard of Trayvon Martin, in 2012 Shot, in 2013 None of That Was Done By Whites, in 2014 … Continue reading

Adoption Dot Com Blog Posts

Answering a WordPress question for a friend, I realized it had been a long time since I’d revamped my blog. I decided to start with making a list of all of the blog posts I wrote for when I worked as a Storyteller. Words Matter, January 22, 2015 Five Great Books About Adoption for … Continue reading

Safe States

Safe States

Note: This post is not about coronavirus; this post is about adoption. Going down an Internet rabbit hole yesterday, I found the web site for The Adoption Consultancy, an adoption consultant who states that she will help couples “navigate what can be an overwhelming, complicated, time-consuming and frustrating process.” In the adoption community, there’s some … Continue reading

Ethics? We Don’t Need No Stinking Ethics

The following is a screenshot of text from the Lifetime Adoptions Facebook page*: “Adoptions have increased in the past few weeks because women want more for their children and babies.” Bullshit. Adoptions have increased in the past few weeks because millions of people are unemployed or have had their hours cut back severely**, thanks to … Continue reading

Legal, Just, Right, and Wanted

There is a difference between what is LEGAL, what is JUST, what is RIGHT, and what you WANT. ~ Greg M. My husband’s friend posted that as his Facebook status once upon a time. I asked him if I could borrow it. He said yes. <insert evil laugh here> OK, not really. I like this … Continue reading

So Biden Made a Cake

I’ve seen a few people post the Laurie Goff quote about Joe Biden being awesome for “playing second fiddle to a Black man.” It immediately pissed me off, but it took me awhile to find the words to explain why.   Finally, I came up with the proper analogy: It’s like the Dad who gets … Continue reading