The Evolution of My Career

I’m taking an adoption break this week, and focusing on something I’ve never really talked about before: what I do for work and how that came to be. I went to Carnegie Mellon, initially intending to major in Professional Writing, but to try and get into the College of Fine Arts. I wanted to be an … Continue reading

Pieces I’m Proud Of

I’m very excited about my latest piece for Red Flags Expectant Parents Should Watch for in Prospective Adoptive Parents Every major blog has probably posted the opposite piece: Red Flags Adoptive Parents Should Look for in Birthmothers. My piece came about because of a discussion in the Creating a Family Facebook group. The birthmothers … Continue reading


Jackson turned 10 on January 17, 2016. He opted not to have a birthday party this year. Instead, he’s going to a professional wrestling show with Max next month. Jackson’s birthmother and I exchanged text messages on Sunday. I always feel awkward trying to express how I feel about her and the incredibly difficult decision … Continue reading

Adoption Creed

I grew up Catholic. I went to Catholic school for eight long years. One of the prayers we had to memorize, was the Apostles’ Creed. It goes like this: I believe in God the Father almighty, creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord. He was conceived by the … Continue reading

What Is My Agenda?

When we started the adoption process for the first time – back in 2005 – I began joining as many adoption groups as I could. In 2008, I reluctantly started using Facebook (specifically so I could see pictures of my friend Kari’s daughter). I branched into Facebook adoption groups relatively quickly. I’m not sure how … Continue reading

2015 in Review

I always like this chance to look back at what I did last year. Unfortunately, I didn’t do one heck of a lot for this blog last year. I would very much like to post weekly in 2016. I hope that happens. Thank you to all of my readers! The stats helper monkeys prepared … Continue reading

Kidnapping Is Legal in Utah

Utah essentially allows adoption professionals and immoral adoptive couples to kidnap babies from their fathers. When you read an article about a birth father who has lost his child, it’s almost always out of Utah. Colby Nielsen had his daughter taken from him on 11/18. He’s on the child’s birth certificate, and the child was in … Continue reading


The SB277 referendum did not make the November 2016 ballot. That means that SB277 will be implemented by July 2016. Cassie cannot go to Transitional Kindergarten. We thought about keeping her in preschool for another year, but there are two problems with that: We don’t want her to stay in preschool for another year. We … Continue reading

Meanwhile, at

I have a big, life-changing news post to write, but right now, I’m just going to provide links to the article I wrote this month. It is very, very good! 9 Tips for Being Respectful to All Members of the Adoption Triad on Social Media