Back Story: The recent Supreme Court ruling has brought out so many adoption myths. When society as a collective talks about adoption, it does not know what it is talking about. People say flat-out stupid things. Correcting those things has made me decide to blog again, although blogging feels so 2010. Disclaimer: It’s important to … Continue reading
The following are not reasons for people to adopt from foster care: It’s free. The kids get Medicaid and free college tuition. You get a stipend. All kids deserve love. And yet, these are all reasons that people offer up whenever someone on the Internet posts any variation on: “I wish adoption wasn’t so expensive.” … Continue reading
Anyone with more than an ounce of compassion and at least half a brain is up in arms over ICE separating more than 2,000 children from their families at our borders. A few days ago, variations on this meme started popping up: The thing is, we do take children away from their parents for misdemeanors … Continue reading
I know I’ve done this a lot lately: direct you to other blogs. I have so many articles written in my head, but getting them typed out… that’s a different matter entirely. (59 days before we leave California.) The No Bohns About It post, Why in the World Does the Race or Ethnicity of a Foster Child … Continue reading
When you spend a lot of time in the online adoption community, as I do, you see a lot of the same sentiments come up, again and again: Adoption should be a last resort. Babies don’t need stuff. All they need is love – love from their biological families. It’s always best for a child … Continue reading
I read the comments on blog posts. I shouldn’t, but I do. I read the following comment on a blog about the ethics of adoption fundraising: From my perspective, if the cost of domestic, international, or embryo adoption is too expensive for a family the obvious choice would be foster adoption. Maybe I’m just being … Continue reading
Every time someone asks about the cost of private domestic or international adoption, every time someone posts a fundraiser or asks for tips on raising or saving money, there are at least two people who chime in with variations on this theme: Adopt from foster care – it’s free! Sometimes, the comments are cheery: We … Continue reading
As I’ve said a few times recently, private adoption costs a lot. Foster adoption – adoption through the foster care system – is usually monetarily free, or at least very low cost. Adoptive parents in the domestic infant adoption (DIA) pool are often attacked for not adopting from foster care. We were asked a few … Continue reading
Within the adoption community, there are those who are not entirely anti-adoption, but who believe that adoption should be an option only as a last resort. The argument is that because adoption is born out of loss, and there is so much loss in adoption, that loss should be avoided at almost all cost. Perhaps … Continue reading
This entire review can be summed up in one sentence, which I said to Max after watching: “I’m pretty sure that’s not how foster care works.” You may not know it, but ABC Family recently premiered a new show, The Fosters. Teri Polo and Sherri Shaun are Stef Foster and Lena Adams, the moms to … Continue reading
Holding to the Ground 