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Safe States

Safe States

Note: This post is not about coronavirus; this post is about adoption. Going down an Internet rabbit hole yesterday, I found the web site for The Adoption Consultancy, an adoption consultant who states that she will help couples “navigate what can be an overwhelming, complicated, time-consuming and frustrating process.” In the adoption community, there’s some … Continue reading

Ethics? We Don’t Need No Stinking Ethics

The following is a screenshot of text from the Lifetime Adoptions Facebook page*: “Adoptions have increased in the past few weeks because women want more for their children and babies.” Bullshit. Adoptions have increased in the past few weeks because millions of people are unemployed or have had their hours cut back severely**, thanks to … Continue reading

Legal, Just, Right, and Wanted

There is a difference between what is LEGAL, what is JUST, what is RIGHT, and what you WANT. ~ Greg M. My husband’s friend posted that as his Facebook status once upon a time. I asked him if I could borrow it. He said yes. <insert evil laugh here> OK, not really. I like this … Continue reading

Book Review: “You Don’t Look Adopted”

Book Review: “You Don’t Look Adopted”

Once upon a time, this was an adoption blog that occasionally touched on other topics. Recently, it’s been an other topic blog that has occasionally touched on adoption. I’m going to try to rectify that over the course of the year. I got a Kindle for Christmas and the first two books I read were … Continue reading

How Many Parents Do Adoptees Have?

I was in a unicorns and rainbows adoption group for two months. It came up in discussion that yes, a child’s birthmother is her mother, and that child is her birthmother’s daughter. So, the birthmother can say, “My daughter,” and “mom” and be correct. One person staunchly fought this. Her children have one set of … Continue reading

Wearing Adoption on Your Shirt

Wearing Adoption on Your Shirt

Originally published by adoptionblogs.com on the Transracial/Transcultural Adoption Blog, July 17, 2009. A few days ago, a friend of mine from an online group wrote about the “Adoption Rocks!” t-shirt she was wearing. Two people came up to her and told her their positive adoption experiences, and she was very excited that her shirt had … Continue reading

Thanks Southwest! (Or, Representation Matters)

Thanks Southwest! (Or, Representation Matters)

I have two very different stories of Southwest Airlines. In 2006, one of their employees tried to have us arrested for not having a piece of paper their Customer Service rep told me we didn’t need. (The captain intervened, got the paper, and we went home.) In 2011, they were the only airline that would … Continue reading

My Kids Have Two Moms

I don’t know what it is, but it seems like a lot of adoptive parents are currently whining about how it’s so unfair that people recognize birthmothers as mothers. They complain, “I’m the one who is there everyday. I’m the mom!” My kids have two moms. My kids have two dads. We know Cassie’s birthfather, but he’s recently … Continue reading