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My Kids Have Two Moms

I don’t know what it is, but it seems like a lot of adoptive parents are currently whining about how it’s so unfair that people recognize birthmothers as mothers. They complain, “I’m the one who is there everyday. I’m the mom!” My kids have two moms. My kids have two dads. We know Cassie’s birthfather, but he’s recently … Continue reading

Adoption as a First Choice

Adoption was always my first choice. Most people assume that other people adopt because of infertility. They can’t have “their own” children, so they “have to” adopt. I actually had someone lecture me about how I should understand what it feels like to lose a child because of what I had lost by being infertile. … Continue reading

Adoption Creed

I grew up Catholic. I went to Catholic school for eight long years. One of the prayers we had to memorize, was the Apostles’ Creed. It goes like this: I believe in God the Father almighty, creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord. He was conceived by the … Continue reading

What Is My Agenda?

When we started the adoption process for the first time – back in 2005 – I began joining as many adoption groups as I could. In 2008, I reluctantly started using Facebook (specifically so I could see pictures of my friend Kari’s daughter). I branched into Facebook adoption groups relatively quickly. I’m not sure how … Continue reading

Kidnapping Is Legal in Utah

Utah essentially allows adoption professionals and immoral adoptive couples to kidnap babies from their fathers. When you read an article about a birth father who has lost his child, it’s almost always out of Utah. Colby Nielsen had his daughter taken from him on 11/18. He’s on the child’s birth certificate, and the child was in … Continue reading

Back at

Before Cassie was born, I wrote for I had to take a break when I was writing four adoption-related pieces each week, plus, you know, trying to actually adopt a baby. This past fall, I talked to them about writing for the new and improved My first article was published today! How to … Continue reading

Biology Isn’t Best

Biology Isn’t Best

When you spend a lot of time in the online adoption community, as I do, you see a lot of the same sentiments come up, again and again: Adoption should be a last resort. Babies don’t need stuff. All they need is love – love from their biological families. It’s always best for a child … Continue reading

Full Disclosure vs. Too Much Information

I saw a very strange question on an adoption forum. The asker was a prospective adoptive parent (PAP) writing her profile. She asked: My husband and I are vegetarians. Should we put that in our profile? One of the first answers was: No, don’t put it in your profile, but you do want to make … Continue reading