Tagged with open adoption

Open Adoption and Open Records

Jackson has two birth certificates. The first one lists his birthmother and birthfather as his parents. It has his birthmother’s last name added to his name. The second one lists Max and me as his parents. It has our last name added to his name. Neither one is false. I know there are people who … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #48: Success?

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #48.  Why has or hasn’t openness worked for you? If you are in a healthy functional open adoption, why do you think … Continue reading

Open Adoption and Mother’s Day

There is a thread on the Adoptive Families community forum titled, “Open adoption and Mother’s Day.” An adoptive mother of a 7-month old is going to visit with her daughter’s birthmother the day before Mother’s Day. The baby’s bmom wants to visit the baby on Mother’s Day. The amom wants to spend her first Mother’s … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #45: Open Adoption and Time

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #45.  Write about open adoption and time.  This actually dovetails nicely into a post I already had planned; a post I was … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #44: What Openness Means To Me

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #44.  Adoptive parent Luna of Life From Here recently wrote a powerful post about what “openness” means to her. Someone suggested that it would … Continue reading

80% of Open Adoptions Close… Or Not

I’ve seen the following statistic thrown around: 80% of open adoptions close within X years. Sometimes it’s one year, sometimes three. I wondered, where are they getting this information? Statistics in adoption aren’t really kept. The Evan B. Donaldson Institute just completed a major research study about adoption, maybe it’s there. Nope. According to them, … Continue reading

My Thoughts on Openness In Adoption

Adoption Magazine has started a weekly Adoption Blog Hop, and I thought I might try to participate. I’m two days late this time. Oops! For this week’s adoption blog hop, the optional topic is sharing your thoughts on openness in adoption. My thoughts on openness in adoption: Openness is good. Shortest blog post ever. OK … Continue reading

Children Adopted Internationally Do Have Birth Parents

Full disclosure: In the beginning, we were looking at international adoption because I believed a bunch of the common domestic infant adoption myths, including the whole “the birth parents can come back at any time” issue. However, once I learned the facts, I really wasn’t afraid of birth parents. Now that research is showing that … Continue reading