Tagged with gender

How I Feel About Pact: It’s Complicated

Recently, “Her” at Parents of Color Seek Newborn to Adopt asked people for their experiences with Pact, An Adoption Alliance. This post reminded me that I’ve been meaning to blog about our experience with Pact. As you can see by the title, it was not a good one. However, when I reflect on our experience, we didn’t so much … Continue reading

It Had Nothing to Do With the Clothes

Every so often, it seems that the topic of selecting the sex of one’s children comes up in multiple places. Every time, I think, “I need to write a blog post about that someday.” Lucky you, “someday” is now. Whenever I read a blog post about selecting a child’s sex, there are always many comments … Continue reading

What I Get to Do

Many people, including at least one family member, think it’s not OK to specify gender. The argument is almost always the same: “You wouldn’t get to do that if you were pregnant.” Using that logic, let’s see what else I wouldn’t get to do if I were pregnant: I wouldn’t get to gather six character … Continue reading

Follow Up to Gender Selection

Follow Up to Gender Selection

This post was originally published on AdoptionBlogs.com on September 28, 2010. Republished here with permission. On Friday, I wrote the post Gender Selection. Ironically, on Saturday, I received an email message from Pact: … after thoughtful consideration Pact  is no longer working with families who are only open to adopting one gender of child and … Continue reading

Gender Selection

Gender Selection

This post was originally published on AdoptionBlogs.com on September 24, 2010. Republished here with permission. My best friend Penny remembers that I used to talk about adoption back in high school. She remembers me saying that I was going to have a girl first – part of choosing adoption meant that I could choose the … Continue reading