Tagged with birth parents

Selfish

I was reading the adoption.com forums, when a prospective adoptive parent explained that the expectant mother with whom she’d been matched would be getting a copy of their home study before the emom relinquished. All last names and sensitive information were removed. However, she still felt that was too much information. Could she ask for … Continue reading

How I Do Updates

I’ve been writing this post in my head ever since Ariel wrote about her son’s adoptive parents being late with their one year update. I didn’t write it sooner because: a) I don’t want to sound all adoptive-parent-expert-y, b) I’m actually working on my children’s birth parents’ updates, and c) I always feel guilty about … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #50: Adoption and School

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #50.  Whether you have children in your home or not, it is hard to miss the fact that it is back-to-school time. … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #48: Success?

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #48.  Why has or hasn’t openness worked for you? If you are in a healthy functional open adoption, why do you think … Continue reading

Seriously?

I really wish someone would pay me to look at adoption agency and facilitator web sites and point out everything that is wrong with them. I’ve already spoken specifically about Rainbow’s End. Every so often, I will find myself at an adoption-related web site and I find statements that are just plain wrong. Here are some … Continue reading

More Facilitator BS

For the record, I started this post on January 7. It matters because someone on the adoption.com forums just asked me about Rainbow’s End, a facilitator here in CA. When I took a look at their web site, I went straight to their “Birth Parents” section, and then clicked “Adoption Myths.” When I read it, … Continue reading

Robyn’s Adoption Land: Agencies

Within the United States, there are two main categories of adoption: Foster Adoption and Private Adoption. Basically, any adoption that isn’t through foster care is private. There are subcategories within private adoption: Stepparent Adoption, Agency Adoption, and Independent Adoption. Stepparent adoption is pretty self-explanatory. Similarly, agency adoption is adoption that is done through an adoption … Continue reading

Adoption Book Club: Megan’s Birthday Tree

The Open Adoption Bloggers have started a book club. We read a book that deals with open adoption, then we write about it on our blogs. Simple and fun. Our first book is Megan’s Birthday Tree, a children’s picture book. In Megan’s Birthday Tree, Megan is an adopted child who knows and has contact with … Continue reading

10 Really Bad Reasons to Keep Your Baby

I often read the blog The No So Secret Life of an Adoptee. I find it interesting and educational. However, a recent post really had me shaking my head: 10 Reasons You Should Keep Your Baby. Her items are the numbered ones. My responses appear below each item. 1. Your baby will love you no … Continue reading

Open Adoption Roundtable #42: Injuries

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. We’re up to Open Adoption Roundtable #42.  Think about a time when your child has been injured or sick (or for adoptees, when you have been injured or … Continue reading