Utah essentially allows adoption professionals and immoral adoptive couples to kidnap babies from their fathers. When you read an article about a birth father who has lost his child, it’s almost always out of Utah. Colby Nielsen had his daughter taken from him on 11/18. He’s on the child’s birth certificate, and the child was in his custody after birth, but, because he’s not married to the child’s mother, he must go through Utah’s difficult and expensive legal hurdles to get her back from the prospective adoptive parents, reportedly Brad and Miranda Larsen.
These parents are not innocent bystanders who know nothing about what’s going on. They have hired one of the best – and least ethical – adoption attorneys in Utah. They know they’re taking a baby from a family who loves her. They simply don’t care.
Nielsen’s family has set up a Go Fund Me account for his legal expenses. Utah law is heavily influenced by the more conservative teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (LDS, or Mormons). The Church believes that adoption is preferable to being raised by an unmarried parent. Consequently, the law sets an absurdly high bar for unmarried fathers. It is unlikely that Nielsen will win custody of his daughter in Utah. He will have to do what other unmarried fathers have done: Appeal to a higher court.
I am sickened by adoptive parents who behave this way. No wonder we are called “adoptoraptors” by vocal opponents of adoption. This father was involved in his girlfriend’s pregnancy. He believed that he and his girlfriend were going to raise the baby together. The baby had a room ready for her when she came home from the hospital. But the girlfriend’s parents apparently pressured her into placing the baby for adoption. (There’s a special place in hell for them, I’m sure.) It doesn’t matter to Utah, the grandparents, the girlfriend, or the Larsens that Colby Nielsen loves his daughter, wants her, and is perfectly able and willing to care for her.
Once again, we need adoption laws at the federal level to stop this form of legalized kidnapping from happening.