In the last week, I’ve been posting to my Facebook timeline many articles related to the events in Ferguson, MO. One of the links I posted was to an Onion article, that was so true, it wasn’t funny: Tips for Being an Unarmed Black Teen.
A good friend of mine, someone I’ve known in real life for 20 years, commented that the article was nonsense, cited a booklet written by a white separatist, and stated that law enforcement (and presumably everyone else) “has a reason to get nervous” around Black boys. She then went on to list a series of crimes committed against herself and her property, and “none of that was done by whites.”
I cannot begin to describe the feeling associated with her remark. That she believes my son is more likely to become a criminal because of the color of his skin. That she believes it is acceptable, even understandable, that he could be shot simply for walking down the street.
Hurt, definitely. I am definitely hurt by her remark. Angry. Scared. Heartsick. I think heartsick is the right word.
I know she’s not the only one who thinks that way. And that’s why our children are
dying being slaughtered.
These are the videos and articles that I believe best express how I feel and what I’ve been thinking about being a White parent of Black children in light of the violence against them:
- Jesse Williams on Ferguson (video) (2:17)
- The World Should Not Strive to Be Colorblind – In 5 short paragraphs, the author eloquently explains why it’s important to talk about race.
- What Adoption Classes Didn’t Teach Us About Raising Black Children – We didn’t have to take any classes the first time we adopted. The second time, we took a short webinar.
- Out of Sight, Out of Mind: Why White Moms Need to Care About Murdered Black Children – “[R]aising your children to be colorblind is insulting.”
- Discussing Race & Racism with Your Black Friends: Dos and Don’ts – “Don’t change the subject.”
- 12 Things White People Can Do Now Because Ferguson – “A lot of white people aren’t speaking out publicly against the killing of Michael Brown because they don’t see a space for themselves to engage meaningfully in the conversation so that they can move to action against racism.”
- Shot – My own post about raising a Black boy.
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