To make a long story short, I stumbled upon a blog post today, titled “What Not to Say to Mixed-Race Couples.”
Number 4 is “Are They Adopted?”
Obviously, Max and I are not a mixed-race couple. But many parents of mixed-race children, adopted or otherwise, are often asked the question, “Are they adopted?” Most adoptive parents I know bristle at the question, even if it comes from people who are genuinely interested in adoption. I’ve been there. I was in Target and I saw two white people with a brown kid. Because I’d love to know more adoptive parents in real life, I really wanted to ask them about their son. However, I know I don’t particularly like it when strangers come up to me and ask if Jackson is adopted. So, how do we make these connections without offending anyone?
This blog post actually has an answer:
“If you don’t mind sharing it, I’d love to hear about their heritage.”
Personally, I think it’s brilliant!