Cassie is a baby who loves to be held. It took her more than one month before she would sleep in her crib at night. It’s only been in the past few weeks that she’ll happily lie or sit down while she’s awake. And she’s still not consistently sleeping in her crib during the day.
I’ve had several people, including Cassie’s birthmother, tell me that I have to put the baby down and let her cry for awhile.
No, actually, I don’t.
Now, I don’t have a problem with cry-it-out. I could write more about that, but it really is another post. However, Cassie is too young for a cry-it-out approach. Says who? Well, in addition to me, Dr. Marc Weissbluth, author of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, the best sleep book available (at least in 2006). I’ve been rereading the book. He says that you could let a baby this young cry for up to 20 minutes if you want to. However, it may not make sense for a baby this young, so you should do what works for you and the baby.
That, of course, is the key – what works for us. Just because Cassie’s a baby doesn’t mean her feelings aren’t valid. She needs some more time to feel secure? OK. She doesn’t like lying down during the day yet? OK. Sure, it’s a pain, but as one mom at Jackson’s school (and one of my new friends) said, “This time is so short.”
Yesterday, Cassie took one 45-minute nap in her crib and another 1-hour nap in her crib. Baby steps. I’m sure it will all work out.