Step Two

(originally published on LiveJournal)

Today, Max and I decided which agency will be taking our money so they can provide us with services that will result in us adopting a baby.

To me, that’s huge. It means that I’m done with TWO YEARS of research on types of adoption, agencies, attorneys, birthparents, and related material. Now, we get to start reading how to write a “Dear Birthmom” (DBM) letter. I get to learn how to make a mini-scrapbook of 10- 8.5 by 11 pages, back and front, for which we will both choose pictures and info. Concrete steps.

The next real step is to get our home study done. The “agency” we chose isn’t an “agency” at all — it’s a network of lawyers. Or, as one reference put it: Adoption Network Law Center is a Marketing Law Firm. ANLC takes our money and advertises for birthparents. Then, ANLC screens them, gets an idea of what they want in adoptive parents, and shows them profiles. They do a lot of work with the birthparents up-front. However, because ANLC is not a typical agency, we need to choose another agency to do our home study.

When interviewing other agencies, we found out how much just home studies would cost. There are a few agencies that I’m already fond of, but now I can “shop around” for decent prices and turnaround times. In the home study, a social worker meets with each adoptive parent individually, together, and then also in the home. In a private adoption, the emphasis is really on learning about the process, instead of being evaluated. There are certain laws that must be followed, and building/housing codes that must be adhered to, but most people “pass” the home study.

I’m not sure who’s all reading this, if anyone, and I hope I haven’t bored you. I’m actually terribly excited about this. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. And it makes me happy, even if it is far away.
Current Mood: excited
Current Music:Closer to Fine, Indigo Girls

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